10 Things to Help Children After a Tragedy

10 Things to Help Children After a Tragedy
Now with all the recent shootings that have left so many dead and injured, it’s important to remember, Children read our feelings and mirror our emotions. They will soak up our reassurance or fear, love or hate, safety or danger. While these were written for children, they are just as true for adults.
  • Do not try to keep what is going on from your kids. These videos are on TikTok and other social media channels. Even elementary school kids talk about the news. Focus on how people came together and helped out to keep people safe and the bad people have been arrested. Your family style may be to protect the kids from this reality, but many other families are telling their kids and then all kids talk to each other in school.
  • During the unfolding of a tragic event such as shootings and other situations, most of TV is live and you cannot anticipate what your children may see. Turn on the radio instead or show them pre-recorded news broadcast.
  • Talk to your kids about the event that is happening in simple language that they can understand, which is age appropriate (i.e. Some bad people shot at some people in a building etc. Some people are hurt and some have died)
  • Reassure the kids about their safety. Tell them that while this is important, most of the world is safe and that the area you live in is safe. Also, reassure them that the police, security and many other government officials are doing a lot of things to keep them safe.
  • Children need words. Tell them what you are feeling, what you think about the situation. Then, encourage them to talk about what they think. It is important to validate their feelings and clear up any misunderstanding and misinformation they have.
  • Be proactive and find ways to help. Say a prayer, light a candle, give blood, go to your place of worship, you and your kids can donate some money to an organization that is helping with the situation. Make sure some of it comes from your kids, no matter how small the amount is.
  • Reassure your kids a little more, watch them a little more, do obvious gestures that show you are keeping them safe and watching over them. Remember kids may have very illogical fears.
  • Kids grieve very differently from adults. They may not talk about things for weeks or months. Be available to talk about their grief whenever it may come up.
  • Keep as many normal routines going as possible; but, allow a little more time knowing that grief is exhausting for you and your children. Routines are very important. Doing normal things in abnormal times help us feel normal again.
  • Remember for your kids and for yourself, the concept of possible vs. probable. Shootings are possible anywhere, anytime, but they are not probable in our lives today. While events may be tragic, try to put losses in perspective; that many things we do are risky in life, but we do them because fear does not stop death, fear stops life. Most of us will go to the movies, travel, live life and be very safe.



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Spreading Love this Valentine Holiday!

Spreading Love this Valentine Holiday!

200 flowers! We prepared 200 flowers to give to the residents of some of our local residential facilities; Country View, Tri-County, Maple Grove, Lynn’s Heritage Place and Parkside Manor. Our staff worked hard to prep for this and were so excited to see the grateful faces of those on the receiving end.

“Look for the inner ANGEL in yourself. Doing good and spreading JOY can be as natural here on Earth as it is in Heaven. Sharing our LOVE is not only easy to do, it is what we are meant to do. May we take the time today to find the inner angel inside ourselves. I hope that we let that angel out to bless the world with our love and always remember that we don’t need wings to fly!”
― Angie Karan

*Becky Carroll, Home Health & Hospice Administrative Assistant giving a flower to her Grandmother Betty Walters who currently resides at Lynn’s Heritage Place in Louisiana.

Baking with Barbara

Baking with Barbara

Tis the Season to bring cheer to others and here at Pike County Hospice, we work hard to do just that for our patients! Barbara Robinson is unable to be at home and will often talk about her favorite holiday traditions of making various salads and candies for the holiday family gatherings.  With limited resources for baking Barbara’s favorites, some thinking and creativity had to come into play – making something that did not require the oven or microwave. Danielle McCartney, our Hospice Social Worker, took all the ingredients necessary to make a simple yet yummy salad that allowed Barbara the ability to assist in creating it. Barbara most definitely enjoyed the activity that made for a fun and joyful memory before Christmas! The Snicker Apple Salad was yummy too! Here is the recipe if you are interested in trying it yourself!





Snicker Apple Salad

Snicker Apple Salad is a sweet treat, filled with texture and flavor! Bright pops of apple perfectly complement chewy chunks of Snickers.

  • Prep Time: 5 minutes
  • Total Time: 5 minutes
  • Servings: 12
  • Calories: 210


  • 4 large Granny Smith apples
  • 4-5 snickers bars
  • 8 oz cool whip
  • 1 small box vanilla instant pudding
  • 1/2 cup milk
  • caramel sauce


  • Mix milk and pudding then fold in the cool whip.
  • Cut up apples and snickers and mix in.
  • Drizzle caramel sauce on top.
  • Serve cold or layer and serve cold.