Bereavement is a journey for all caregivers, family, and friends and there is no right or wrong way to act during this time. Pike County Hospice is here for you from the time you or your loved one begins hospice care. We are by your side for all stages of the process
Planning for What is to Come and Trying to Make the Right End-of-life Decisions
Whether you are the patient or family, even the smallest decisions become most meaningful because the you are seeking the best quality of life. When you are not able to make decisions because of illness and you want a particular person to make decisions for you, such as a family member, it is best to complete a state-approved form such as an ADVANCED DIRECTIVE. This will legally give the person of your choice the right to decide health care matters for you. Let us make these decisions easier for you by allowing us to assist you and your loved one with these choices.
When the End Seems to be Nearing
The human and realistic part of all of us is to know and accept the fact that no one lives forever, but the emotional side of us will struggle with this in our minds as we are aware that the time is approaching. Either as the patient or the loved ones surrounding them, it is normal to begin the grieving process before death occurs. Our Hospice Social Workers, Hospice Chaplain and trained staff are ready to assist in any way possible to help you transition through these inevitable feelings.
After the Loss of a Loved One
At Pike County Hospice we know that everyone deals with grief in their own way. We also know that there is no reason you have to do it alone. Our bereavement services offer visits from our Hospice Social Worker for up to 13 months after your loved ones death. Our hospice program also offers what others don’t, and that is a Bereavement Support Group. This support group is open to the public free of charge. We strive to assure our bereaved compassion, mutual support, understanding, diversity, integrity and allow our families to feel safe and supported in a nurturing environment. Learn more about our Bereavement Support Group below. We also send out complimentary newsletters titled “Journey’s” that help understand the grieving and bereavement process.
Remembering Our Loved Ones
Annually, Pike County Hospice holds a Hospice Memorial Service. Keeping the memories of our loved ones alive through this memorial service is the intention of the annual event. Families who’s loved ones were on our Hospice services are invited to this service to honor the memories of those we have lost. The service is typically held at the Nazarene Church in Bowling Green, guests in attendance will be served a meal, our Hospice chaplain will speak, and a memorial slide show will be viewed.
Bereavement Support Group
Our Bereavement Support Group meets the first Monday of every month at 6:00 p.m. in our Community Conference Room (side entrance). The group is facilitated by our Hospice Chaplain.
We aim to assist people, without charge, in learning to live with this “new normal” by:
- Providing a safe space in which to explore grief in whatever ways that works best for the person.
- Reducing the isolation of bereaved people by facilitating connections with other bereaved people.
- Normalizing the grief experience.
- Nurturing the resiliency of people to identify their own inner resources and coping strategies.
We strive to assure our bereaved compassion, mutual support, understanding, diversity, integrity and allow our families to feel safe and supported in a nurturing environment.
“At Pike County Hospice we know that everyone must deal with grief and bereavement, but we also believe you do not have to do it alone. It is our honor and joy to help in the time of struggled questioning.”
– Brother Don Amelung, Hospice Chaplain
Bereavement & Grieving Resources
Books for Children
- Adams, John, The Dragonfly Door. Feather Rock Books, 2007.
- Brown, Laurie Krasny and Marc Brown, When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death. Little, Brown andCompany Publishing, 1996.
- Buscaglia, Leo, The Fall of Freddy the Leaf. Slack, Inc., 1982. dePaola, Tomie, Nana Upstairs & Nana Downstairs. Puffin Books, 2000.
- Heegard, Marge, When Someone Very Special Dies. Woodland Press, 1991.
- Mundy, Michaelene M., Sad Isn’t Bad: When Someone You Love Dies. Abbey Press Carenotes, 1998.
- O’Neal, Ted, When Bad Things Happen: A Coping Guide for Kids. Abbey Press Carenotes, 2003.
- O’Toole, Donna, Aarvy Aardvark Finds Hope. Compassion Press, 1988.
- Sad Hug, Mad Hug, Happy Hug. Channing L. Bete Co., 1994
- Schweibert, Pat, Tear Soup. Grief Watch, 2005.
- Wolfelt, Alan D., Healing Your Grieving Heart for Kids. Companion Press, 2001.
Books for Adults Helping Grieving Children
- 35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child. Dougy Center, 1999.
- Mellonie, Bryan and Robert Ingpen, Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children. Bantam Books, 1983
- Silverman, Janis, Help Me Say Goodbye: Activitiesfor Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies. Fairview Press, 1999.
- Wolfelt, Alan D., Healing a Child’s Grieving Heart. Companion Press, 2001.
Books for Adults:
- Understanding Your Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart by Alan D. Wolfelt
- A Grief Observed by C. S. Lewis
Online Resources for Living with and through loss:
www.willowgreen.com is a leading provider of information and inspiration in the area of illness and dying, loss and grief, healthy care-giving life transition, and spirituality
www.widownet.org An information and self-help resource for and by widows, and widowers; covers grief, bereavement and recovery
www.growthhouse.org Offers links to many bereavement sites, including those specializing in diversity
http://www.aarp.org/relationships/grief-loss/ – Widowed Persons Service (800.424.3410)
This sites provide additional resources that we feel offer vary valuable information.